Lesson’s When I turned 21

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Lessons I Learned from Turning 21

As I turned 21 this year, there very many life lessons I learned, and it has been a journey of learning through good things, sad things, causalities, and difficulties. Seasons where you are starting new and feeling lost and scary and something that can most definitely catch you off guard.

Having to restart my life has been one of the hardest things I have experienced, but these experiences are not all bad though. 

I am happy to have been able to have a fresh, clean slate in life and live life as intended. The first years of my life were taken away from my father who was extremely manipulative and abusive. I had to decide to leave the situation and start all over again with a new slate in life. It has most definitely been a struggle, but I can still say that I have peace of mind now and am not being under someone who is constantly hurting you and mistreating you for no reason. I know that I deserve better, and that is not the circumstance I need to be in. I do not want to stay within the same place in life and be able to find myself more within this journey. 

I want to find my purpose and fulfillment without just going through the motions. So, one lesson I learned was that I need to cut off everything that is not good for growing as a person. Second lesson I learned was that I need to have people in my corner that are going to support me, push me, help me and love me. I need to have people in my corner that are cheering me on in life and not rooting for my downfall.

Another lesson I learned is that I need to make sure I have the right influences and people in my life around me. I need people to guide me and show me the way and help me in my journey in life. I need people to share wisdom of how to survive in this world and do what I feel happy doing.

Another lesson I learned is that the passions I have is gifts God has given to me to glorify him and edify myself. God really wants this season in my life to find my identity and see how I fit into the scope of His plan. 

Another thing that I learned is that taking just a few steps gradually working towards goals I might have in life and taking things one step at a time. I am a really big over-thinker and hate that, but it is true. I am also anxious and on edge a lot of the times, it is probably because newer experiences that I am not used to scare me for a bit. I usually can get used to it and learn, but I just hate a bunch of chaos. I love for life to be peaceful.

Another thing that I learned is that comparison truly is a killer and to not compare my level with someone else’s level. If you constantly compare yourself with everyone around, you that can be detrimental to your growth as a person and can cause a lot of self-doubt and second guessing. It will always be wondering “What If?” Instead of just going for what you want. You will be questioning if you are good enough, and the thing is that you are good enough just believe that you are. There will be haters, but there will also be a group of people that support you no matter what. If you have some support and people who have your back, you will be fine and do great. These are the lessons I learned from turning 21.